Second Home – getting used to my lover’s dominion
5 mn read All this Living Apart Together – the joys of me being in the city and my partner being in the deep countryside – sounds blissful, and I’m not pretending that there aren’t wonderful aspects but that’s not the entire story. There are of course, the benefits of separation which means that we don’t slip into […]
A Crazy Trip to Finland – my brother and I plus my dogs
8 mn read Book travel, sort dogs, pack a bag, grab passport. My usual approach to travel. Not for this trip. The decision to drive to Finland UK in the middle of a global pandemic for Christmas 2021 was a result of a drunken zoom between me, my brother Mik and our friends, Ed and Vee who live […]
Unhappy families are all alike; every happy family is happy in its own way.
6 mn read I think your attitude toward Christmas depends on your early experiences and the bounds of your imagination for presents need not be about money but depend on the fact that you have given time and thought into people you love and like.
Online Love Over 60
6 mn read It is ten years since I published The Colony Room Club 1948-2008 book, almost nine years since Jan Vink and I took over the lease of the crypt in Tower Hill/Aldgate and made it into the Vout-O-Reenees arts club. It’s five years since I left that marriage. Four years post–divorce, we are still working together. […]
Being Single-ish at 61
4 mn read I struggle with terms to define intimate relationships, especially regarding my own. Boyfriend seems a juvenile way to describe a relationship between anyone older than 40. LAT, or Living Apart Together, expresses how one does or doesn’t share space but feels emotionless. Partner is a way of describing a connection that, for me, too much […]
Pamela Des Barres and her Writing School for Electric Ladies
16 mn read Pamela Des Barres, 74, is a musician and actress known for being an American rock groupie. In fact, she wrote a famous memoir I’m with the Band: Confessions of a Groupie which details her experiences in the Los Angeles rock music scene of the 60s and 70s. It turns out that she’s been running workshops […]
Second Home – getting used to my lover’s dominion
5 mn read All this Living Apart Together – the joys of me being in the city and my partner being in the deep countryside – sounds blissful, and I’m not pretending that there aren’t wonderful aspects but that’s not the entire story. There are of course, the benefits of separation which means that we don’t slip into […]
Return of the Wise Woman
3 mn read I’m coming up to 68, in a passionate, new relationship, developing several big business ideas, travelling around the world, moving home but not sure where or even which country.
A Paean to Raving at 53
5 mn read I’m one of the world’s oldest ravers and I’m still raving. I consider it a radical act of defiance against the fear machine that promotes hard work until retirement, after which you’re expected to tip-toe quietly towards death
I spent a lifetime trying to be someone else – now I’m free to be me
3 mn read Freedom… that sweet word which, for me, encompasses everything that sums up what it feels like to be of a ‘certain age’.
Swimming Lessons
6 mn read Dorothy knew that I wasn’t a strong swimmer, but what she didn’t know was that I really couldn’t swim at all…
Sex in My 70s – at last, the pressure is off!
4 mn read Much of my life, despite discovering meditation in my 30s, has been about achieving goals – either physical ones in different sporting activities or intellectual ones in my medical career.
A Feminist Arrives in Nakedland
4 mn read I casually mentioned to people that I was going to Cap d’Agde this September. Most of my friends didn’t know where that was or what it was…
