Sometimes I just see someone in the group that I think would be interesting to ask to respond to our Q&A, and so it was with Ani Wilsher. She posted a brilliantly stylish photo of herself, and I invited her to answer our questions. If you’d like to answer them – in general, we like long, meandering answers – then email me at email@example.com
How old are you?
I’m the ripe old age of 86 and was born and bred in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia.
Where do you live?
In Tunbridge Wells, Kent.
How free do you feel?
This is a new chapter in my life, a new beginning. Destiny brought me here. I have everything I need on my doorstep. I couldn’t ask for more. I feel lucky and blessed. I’ve moved many times in the past with my husband and children, but this time, it’s on my own as a widow. My family, of course, have helped me.
When did you come to the UK?
I came to the UK in 1969 to follow my heart, to be with my husband, Ken Wilsher who was a Rubber Planter for many years in the tropics. Together we raised five children, my treasures, my world.
What do you do?
I’m a retired widow. I’ve had a very happy life and getting old doesn’t worry me. I feel privileged and am still enjoying life, making each moment count, at the same time, making sure to leave happy memories as I carry on.
What do you have now that you didn’t have at 25?
My life was so different at 25; I was young and frivolous and enjoying my youth. Now it’s totally different. I’m still enjoying my lifestyle but it’s more sedate, I guess.
What are you proud of?
My family who are scattered all over the country leading their own lives and bringing up their children. I think I’ve done my job.
What is your philosophy of living?
When my husband passed away suddenly in 2008, I wanted to die with him, my world came crashing down but time as they say, is a great healer. I survived and here I am today, still standing.
When are you at your happiest?
Surrounded by my children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren. My cup overflows.
Where does your creativity go?
Creating a comfortable home, travelling to see beautiful cities, fashion which is my passion, entertaining my friends old and new, and most importantly, making happy memories to leave behind, cooking and arranging flowers which always gives me great pleasure.
What is your philosophy of dying?
I’m happy for Nature to take its course. It will take me where I wish and need to go. I’ve been lucky so far, I shall continue for many more years to come and follow my dreams that never end.