living together apart Archives

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Second Home – getting used to my lover’s dominion

5 mn read All this Living Apart Together – the joys of me being in the city and my partner being in the deep countryside – sounds blissful, and I’m not pretending that there aren’t wonderful aspects but that’s not the entire story. There are of course, the benefits of separation which means that we don’t slip into […]

Rose Rouse

February 7, 2023February 7, 2023

Advantages of Age,Sex & Intimacy

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Lockdown Shock – Moving In With My Partner In N Wales

Posted in Lockdown Stories

8 mn read For the past seven years, I have been having a Living Apart Together relationship with my partner, Asanga. He lives on his beautiful wild land in North Wales and I live in my funky flat in Harlesden, North West London

Rose Rouse

June 16, 2020August 9, 2022

Lockdown Stories

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He Knew Me Better Than Anyone Else Has Ever Known Me

Posted in Advantages of Age

5 mn read This time last year my best friend died. Scott Taylor, Canadian, dramatist, artist, pianist, cultural commentator, polymath, survivor of an abusive childhood, collector of Susuki vases, author of a 700 page as yet unpublished tome ‘Dismantling Mouths’, and, in his own words, ‘a neurotic’s neurotic’. In January this year, I attended, virtually, a seven hour […]

Gill Capper

February 13, 2024February 13, 2024

Advantages of Age,People,Spirit

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A Traveller or a Tourist?

Posted in Advantages of Age

7 mn read Something horrible and unexpected happened during the first few days of our recent trip to Vietnam. My travelling friend, Ruby and I went on day trip – in a deluxe mini bus which took nine people but there was just us, a Japanese older man, and two 40 something Swiss men – to the famous […]

Rose Rouse

February 7, 2024February 7, 2024

Advantages of Age,Journeys

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Hope in my Small Urban Winter Garden

Posted in Advantages of Age

5 mn read The days are lengthening, the angle of the sun’s rays is becoming more acute and, all around us, nature is revving up, getting busy and starting to surge with springtime aliveness. It’s easy to think that all this activity has only just begun, and to a certain extent this is true. However, a glance through […]

Nadia Chambers

January 30, 2022January 29, 2024

Advantages of Age,Spirit

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Borrowed Light – Joining My Daughter’s Hen Weekend

Posted in Advantages of Age

5 mn read Earlier this year, in May 2022 – after a long winter of shielding and healing where I occupied an increasingly shrinking, but very safe-feeling world – I emerged, tentatively, into the sun. This process was facilitated in no small part by a group of bright, young women – my daughter’s closest and dearest friends, who […]

Nadia Chambers

January 30, 2024January 29, 2024

Advantages of Age,Voyages

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How Creating my Own Rituals Helped me Grieve for my Mother

Posted in Death

9 mn read I’m a skeleton collector. I have a large sea-washed radius from a sperm whale beached on the sands in Orkney. Part of its flipper, its hand…